tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17134479985011009362024-03-05T05:04:03.916-05:00Not sure what to do...My journey through life. Surviving the loss of 2 children and the daily life living with 5.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02639538709978578514noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713447998501100936.post-30747875076667911482011-07-17T22:39:00.002-04:002011-07-17T22:44:02.414-04:00Week 1: Letters to my babies, and self portrait.<br />
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I don't even know where to begin. I am trying to make my way through this world until the day we can meet again. I love the both of you so much! I miss and think about you every day. There isn't a day that goes by when one of your brothers or sisters doesn't mention you. You are apart of all that we do. I hope you are looking down on us and seeing how even though you are not here in person you are here in spirit.</div>
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I thought I would tell you a little about your father and I, some things you would have known as you grew up. We meet online, I know what your thinking, your mommy and daddy had to use online dating to find each other! But it is the best thing either of us have done. We meet online in March 2007, and had our first date in May. On our first date I drove out to your daddy's apartment in PA (since his car wasn't working right) and we went to this little pizza place not far away. After we had dinner we decided to go bowling where I preceded to win all the games we played. It was getting late and since our date was on a weekday we decided to call it a night. I want you both to know, that your daddy didn't even give me a kiss good by!! He leaned over and pecked me on the cheek! That was it!</div>
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The following week we made plans for Daddy to come to our house here in NJ. The plan was that he would spend the weekend. It was Memorial Day weekend. We had a great time. He got to meet your brothers and sisters. He meet many of my friends. Come Monday evening when it was time for him to go home he didn't want to go! I'm not really sure how it happened but he said something about wishing he could stay, and I told him I wouldn't tell him not to, so he stayed! We both knew we loved each other from almost the first meeting. It was love at first sight!</div>
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We have been together ever since. We finally made it official on May 22, 2010. We had this beautiful sunrise wedding on the beach on Long Island. It was perfect! You both were there in our hearts! We had this wonderful lady in Australia write your names out in the sand and photographed them for us. We had those photographs blown up and put onto canvas. That way everyone at our wedding knew that you were very much apart of everything we did.</div>
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Love ya both! Mommy</div>
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These three pictures represent various points through my journey of healing.</div>
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The first one is of me holding my beloved Donavan. He was delivered via c-section on September 23, 2009. A mere 21 weeks old. Too little to survive in this world outside my body. (This is the first time I am sharing his picture)</div>
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The second picture is the one and only tattoo I have. I got it as a gift to myself for my marriage to their father. No one knew about it besides my husband until the morning I walled down to the pier for our sunrise wedding. I could hear everyone gasping as I walked passed them in my long wedding dress with the open back. There was wipered remarks about not knowing I had a tattoo. Even my mother and father were shocked. This is something no one expected from me.</div>
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02639538709978578514noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713447998501100936.post-11507587802415670412011-07-04T14:18:00.000-04:002011-07-04T14:18:54.585-04:00New adventure starts tomorrow!Tomorrow is the day. They day I start my new adventure of healing through photography. I am very excited and nervous to get started. I am not sure what will happen. How will I deal with all the flood of memories. How will I be able to convey the pain and sorrow I feel. I will I heal and move forward through this time in my life? I guess I will just have to wait and see what tomorrow will bring.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02639538709978578514noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713447998501100936.post-66023507870849612312011-06-18T20:00:00.000-04:002011-06-18T20:00:46.754-04:00New AdventureI am going to start a new adventure in the near future. I have signed up for an online photography class that will focus on healing from the loss of a child. Please stay tuned and see what I can do.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02639538709978578514noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713447998501100936.post-27866086472575600432010-04-09T09:13:00.000-04:002010-04-09T09:13:39.047-04:00DNAWell we herd from our attorney and it seems that the hospital is considering settling. Settling?? What is that? We still don't know if what the hospital gave is our daughter or not. Apparently the hospital does not want to do the dna testing to confirm that they in fact they didn't loose Vidalia only misplaced her for over 6 month. So I have decided to have the dna testing done on my own. The first part of the testing is done, they found 11 out of 14 dna markers, now Derek and I have to go and have some swabs done to compare our dna to that of the sample the hospital provided. Should be no longer than 2 weeks and we will have our results.<br />
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I just need to know ether way. I want to move on, but not knowing if we have our daughters remains is driving me crazy. I want to bury her with her little brother, Donavan but that is impossible with out prof that she is who we say she is.<br />
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More time, time, time, time. Will we have an answer in time? Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713447998501100936.post-38852942444494924792009-10-19T23:10:00.000-04:002009-10-19T23:10:43.914-04:00Under the tree July 2009<span style="color: #006600; font-size: medium;"><span style="font-style: italic;"> <i><span style="color: black;">Well I know that it is no longer July, but I was reading some of the older posts and decided this was as good a place to start. I want to get some of what I have been feeling and going through down on paper, and these questions seemed like a good place to start.</span></i></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="color: #006600;"><span style="color: black;">Well some background information I think is necessary since I have not really gone into much detail on my blog about my what I have been through. I have 5 very normal and healthy children, my pregnancy's have always been tough on me. But it has always been with me (low blood pressure, low sugar, <i>dizziness, and just plain old tiredness to name a few issues) never anything wrong with the babies. That was until I was pregnant with my 6th child, a little girl we named Vidalia Rose. We lost her when I was 12 weeks into the pregnancy. Though the doctors say she never grew past 7 weeks in size. That was February 14, 2009. </i></span></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="color: #006600;"><span style="color: black;"><i>So starts some more visits to the OB, some more testing to see what was going on. The OB looks at the reports from the ER and says "these thing just happen some times, we just don't know why, but there is nothing to worry about". So a couple more weeks pass, I have another ultra sound and the baby again is doing fine.</i></span></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="color: #006600;"><span style="color: black;"><i>There is the baby, see the head. And there it is moving. Scan some more, keep looking. At this point I have seen enough ultra sounds to know something is wrong! That was not the baby moving, that was the placenta, the blood flowing to the baby that was moving. The baby is not moving, there is no heart beat! They send me down to the "better" machine, the one in the office is not very good. Down there they confirm what I knew up in the room. </i></span></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="color: #006600;"><span style="color: black;">I still feel like I am in a fog. In less than 9 months time I have lost 2 babies. September 23 was Vidalia's due date, and February 14 was Donavan's. I feel in some way that Donavan was sent here to help me deal with loosing Vidalia. We still have many unanswered issues concerning Vidalia. </span></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="color: #006600;"><span style="color: black;">No matter how I see it, it is either one or the other. They never seem to be together here on earth. I only see them together in my minds eye up in heaven. I see Donavan being the protector of his sister.<br />
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<span style="color: #006600; font-size: medium;"><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="color: black;">When I found out that I was pregnant with Vidalia, I had made the decisions to have my tubes tied. I already had 5 children this was to be my 6th and I didn't think my body could handle another one. When I lost Vidalia I said that I could not go through this again, but we did not do anything to stop me from getting pregnant. It was so hard, it is still hard. </span></span></span><br />
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<div style="text-align: center;">We took all the kids out pumpkin picking today. We choose to go to a farm not far from where Donavan was buried. It was difficult to think about him not being there. We got him his first pumpkin and brought it to him.<br />
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</div><div style="text-align: center;">The kids were happy to finally see where he was laid to rest. To tell the truth so was I.<br />
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</div><div style="text-align: center;">This was the second time we went to visit him. The first time we could not find where he was. We chose to bury Donavan in a veteran's cemetery since Derek is a veteran. This way we knew he would always be with us. The cemetery is very large and it is easy to mistake when looking at the map that we were provided.<br />
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</div><div style="text-align: center;">We miss you Donavan!<br />
</div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713447998501100936.post-62430173924434033242009-10-07T19:23:00.000-04:002009-10-07T19:23:05.139-04:00My dearest Donavan<div style="text-align: center;">Today I miss you!<br />
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</div><div style="text-align: center;"> It has been two weeks since you left the warmth and comfort of my body.<br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">Two weeks since I held you in my hands.<br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">Two weeks since I looked upon your perfectness. <br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">Two weeks since I counted all your fingers and counted all your toes.<br />
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</div><div style="text-align: center;">Two weeks of wondering what happened.<br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">Two weeks of dealing with this pain.<br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">Two weeks of doubting that there is a heaven.<br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">Two weeks of knowing there has to be a heaven.<br />
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</div><div style="text-align: center;">It has already been two weeks, where has the time gone?<br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">Can it really have been only two weeks?<br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">It seams like a lifetime ago,<br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">Not a mere two weeks<br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">since I saw the wonder that was you.<br />
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</div><div style="text-align: center;">Today I miss you!<br />
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</div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713447998501100936.post-27251665410243038482009-10-06T22:26:00.002-04:002009-10-06T22:39:18.910-04:00Giving blogging another tryWell I have decided to give this who blogging thing another try...<br />
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I started this blog almost a year ago, at the time I was not sure what to do about the fact that here I was pregnant again! I was still in the mist of trying to absorb it all. Dannick was not even 1 year old yet, and I found out that we were to have another one, not like 5 (6 if you count Andrew) kids are not enough! At that time I was just trying to deal with the knowledge that another one was coming. <br />
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Now sitting here almost a year later I find it hard to remember what I was not sure about. I wish I could say that I was sitting here typing this with my little girl sitting on my lap, but I can't. We lost her on February 14, 2009. I wish I could also say that instead I was sitting here rubbing my swollen belly, but I can't do that either. We lost our little boy on September 23, 2009.<br />
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So, now this has turned into my journey through this grief and sorrow. I have much more to write about, all that I have been through and all that I will continue to go through, but for now I think this will do.<br />
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Thanks for listeningUnknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713447998501100936.post-70444099194501660742008-12-05T00:35:00.000-05:002008-12-05T00:35:01.138-05:00What exactly are you suspost to do with a Blog???Well I am not sure what you are suppose to do with a blog. Do you just rant and talk about anything?? Well here we go...Let's give it a try!!Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1